I participated in an interview for an article on female ejaculation, also known as squirting, for Fusion. However, when the article was published, I wasn’t included because a new study had emerged, overshadowing other discussions. This study contradicted numerous prior studies that had determined ejaculate contains minimal urea and creatinine. Moreover, countless individuals, myself included, have noted that the ejaculate doesn’t resemble urine in appearance, smell, or taste. Why is the chemical composition so scrutinized? It seems like an attempt to shame those who experience it.
The media’s portrayal of this study, which only involved seven participants, is frustrating. It’s been misreported as definitive proof that squirting is urination. This is detrimental, reinforcing fears about urination during sexual activities-something educators like Laura Rose Halliday have been battling against. The media failed to include voices from real people who squirt, not just those in porn or scientists with equipment. In response, I’ve started the hashtag #notpee to encourage sharing real experiences.
When asked about the difference between ejaculation and squirting, I don’t differentiate. The term “squirting” appeals to me more than “female ejaculation,” as not everyone who squirts identifies as female. Many sex educators agree that both terms describe the same phenomenon.
It’s known that some pornographic content fakes squirting by using water. However, not all squirting in porn is fake. Queer porn often portrays genuine squirting, with stars like Jiz Lee and Dylan Ryan frequently featuring it. For authentic depictions, one should explore queer porn from studios like Pink & White and Trouble Films.
Squirting is unique to each person, akin to how penile ejaculation varies. Some experience a slight dribble, others a strong gush, and some can squirt with force. The latter is less common as it requires significant control. For some, the object in the vagina must be removed at the right moment to induce squirting, which can be challenging.
Squirting wasn’t an innate ability for me. I learned about it online and discovered that intense G-spot stimulation could trigger it. My breakthrough came in 2008 with the LELO Ella, where I pushed past the sensation of needing to urinate. I was so impressed with myself that I documented the experience in a review of the toy.
During the encounter, I was deeply aroused, thrusting the G-spot end of the toy hard and fast. The sensation of needing to pee transformed into overwhelming pleasure as I reached a point of no return and released. I was amazed by the experience, which felt concentrated deep within my vagina.
After regaining composure, I observed the evidence of my squirt-a significant wet spot on the towel and beneath it. In disbelief and excitement, I shared my experience online and with my partner.
This discovery opened up new possibilities for me. I became familiar with what G-spot stimulation and the brink of squirting felt like. I acquired more toys, such as the njoy Pure Wand, which is exceptional for inducing squirting. I’ve even managed to squirt with just a strong clitoral vibrator, without vaginal insertion.
I don’t squirt every time, and when I do, it’s often intentional. Each instance varies-sometimes it’s extra wetness during a clitoral orgasm, other times it’s a powerful gush. On occasion, I’ve squirted outward with significant force, like when I was determined to christen my office space. The most remarkable experience was squirting in front of my partner, who found it incredibly sexy and noted it was nothing like urination.
The feeling of squirting involves a buildup of pressure, similar to needing to pee since the G-spot stimulation affects the urethra. However, once squirting starts, the sensation is distinct. It feels overwhelming as the fluid exits, different from clitoral stimulation. The orgasmic sensation is less defined, and continued thrusting can prolong it, though arm fatigue eventually sets in.
Squirting doesn’t feel like bedwetting because it isn’t. Studies confirm the fluid has little urine and shares markers with prostatic fluid. Some educators argue that urination isn’t possible when aroused, at least for those with penises. Any association with peeing is psychological. If you perceive the fluid as urine, it might feel like bedwetting, but it shouldn’t because it’s not.
Please share your squirting experiences below. They are important, relevant, and true, regardless of what new studies or opinions say.